
He was expected to do 5 homework tasks and read once a night during the week. One proved to be more responsive to "Receiving Gifts," so we implemented a rewards chart for the week. My two boys have always been so different in their love languages that it's hard to believe they've been raised in the same home together by the same family all their lives. It's about observing and listening to your child and tailoring your parenting approach to the way they receive it. Parenting is not about blindly following guides, books, websites or what your mother tells you to do.

I first had my two boys complete the 5 love languages quiz for children and it changed the way I look at parenting. Listen to our podcast to hear about strength-based parenting (post continues after podcast)Ī similar theory is relevant to children too But what if that partner's love language is more geared towards words of affirmation? Simply saying something like, "When you do the dishes for me, it makes me feel supported and appreciated," might be ten times more effective to them. So if one person appreciates physical touch as a sign of love, they may use this to express their love, which is great. Most people show their partner love in the ways that they feel they would like to be shown themselves.


As a couple, it is a great tool to discover what is important to your partner so that you can express your love in the way that they recognise it. I first did the quiz with my husband several years ago. Of all the stuff I've read about parenting (and with three kids there's been a fair few), there's one website I've kept coming back to every time I've faced a parenting hurdle. This simple quiz will change the way you parent.
